Saturday, July 14, 2012

Focus on the Family Community: Relationships and Marriage ...

I know I have posted this before and I know that my problem is very minimal compared to others but I would still like advice and also to know if this tends to happen to other married couple's. Let me start my giving an overview. My husband and I have been married for about 2.5 years now. We are still considered newlyweds. We did not take a honeymoon unfortunately. This has been hard on me here lately because I see other couple's going on these fabulous vacations together and I have to say I get very envious. So with that said we have never been anywhere just the two of us. When we do go places it is always with extended family. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy those times but I do want the romance there of spending quality time with my husband. That bonding time that I feel is very important for all married couple's. We have child which makes things a little bit harder but even still I would at least like to have family time just the 3 of us so that way she can have those memories.? Every time I suggest we go do something (Nothing much where your spending lots of money but something to get us out of the house and doing things fun) money becomes an issue with my husband. He said's things cost money that we just do not have right now or he doesn't want to spend. Those words are so aggravating. I hate to hear them. It's not like I am asking much here. I have even suggested the small things locally but then the excuse is it's going to be to crowded or he doesn't feel good or he has other things that need to be done. But most of the time it's the money thing. But when his mom and dad call and ask if we can please drive to go see them (5 hours away) then we some how magically have money to make that happen. But when we get back home I have to hear him gripping for days while he is in a very fowl mood about the money that we spent mostly on gas and him helping his parents out with groceries. This then puts me in an upset mood where I just want to cry and I am then scared to ask to go do something just us. I do not know what to do anymore but I am really getting burned out. I am a stay at home mom that does not get to do much that does not involve the four corners of my house. I am so tired of it and I really feel like my marriage is on the brink of a blow up. I can feel the tensions between us turning into a bad argument over this soon.

This is another story in itself but the times that we have tried to do something fun something happens and we can't. I mean everytime we finally plan something it gets totally ruined. I am starting to think God does not want us to spend time together as a family. I have prayed and prayed to God to please help us find time together, to get us out of this house and bond as a family or married couple. It still has not happened yet. What's really irritating is how if my husband has something planned for instance with friends/co workers or his brother then the weather is perfect, money is fine unless someone else is paying for it and nothing interfers with their plans. But when I suggest something, BAM, It never fails, plans change and no doing what we orignally planned.

Any suggestions would be great. Like I said I am a stay at home mom so it's not like I can make money myself to put back for these moments.

Source: http://www.focusonlinecommunities.com/thread/24630

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